Some relationship problems are small misunderstandings or are easily repaired with a little communication. Then there are others that should sound the alarm and send you running:
1. History of bad relationships. Did their previous relationships all end in cheating, scandal and bad blood? This is a definite sign of the type of behavior that they are prone to. If all their relationships have had nasty, volatile endings, you have to wonder how yours will be any different.
2. You catch them lying. Lying of any kind is a major warning sign. Even if they lie about little things, you have to wonder what else they’ll be dishonest about and why they feel they can’t be honest with you.
3. Explosive communication style. If they totally shut down and storm out, or fly off the handle and explode every time a conflict arises you need to take notice. You’ll never survive any of life’s obstacles if you can’t even talk without a major blowup.
After more than 1.5 years of university, I realised my past passions have died, but I sort of know what I like. I do not like Chemistry, Physics, or even Biology. I don’t want to learn stupid molecules, fine details, processes, and structures that don’t even matter to me. I don’t want to calculate meaningless figures with formulas. Why am I still fighting, but half dying? It’s because I don’t want to fail or get kicked out of school. I lost my purpose in university and I just feel a sense of confinement. What do I like? I seem to like psychology o-o Understanding life, other people, and myself seem to interest me more, at least in my Personality course. What should I do? I could just stick with Life Science and take more psych courses. I think that could work. No more Biochemistry, Ecology, Cell Biology, Genetics, Chemistry, etc. I also realized I have poor commitment into things..whether it’s trusting a person, going to class, following schedules, studying, concentration and full involving myself in a task, or even thinking, because I have too many fleeting thoughts. I still worry what kind of job I can get with this dead degree…but if I keep going and lose my doubt..if I can somehow find the passion and motivation to fight, it will lead me somewhere, right?
when I have a throbbing headache every day? :/
True love is two whole individuals that bring meaning to each other’s life. They aren’t incomplete beings depending on each other to live, but living each moment together and independently.
Eight steps according to Abraham Maslow:
Self-awareness: Accepting oneself as one is. Integrating our strengths and weaknesses into our fuller selves.
Lack of Ego Defenses: Be aware and stop defending our image of ourselves through distortion and denial of outside world and our own characteristics. The key is to accept oneself, flaws and all, instead of defending ourselves from understanding our shortcomings.
Self-development: Accomplish goals with our strengths and intelligence.
Growth choices: We are presented with two paths: one risky path that will develop personal growth and development into new skills and experiences and a safe path that won’t give any new skils. The key is to jump into the scarier path beyond our comfort zone.
Trusting our judgement: Trusting oneself and not let others make decisions for you.
Honesty: Taking full responsibility of the choices we make and not blame others for causing shortcomings of the decision.
Concentration: Be fully involved, concentrated, absorbed in what you’re doing even it may not be something you enjoy. Live every moment to the fullest.
Peak Experience: Becoming one with the world and being more aware of our surroundings instead of actively seeking things for satisfying our needs.